The beginning of a new relationship may be both thrilling and challenging. You’re
overjoyed that someone adores you, thinks you’re witty, finds you fascinating, and so
forth. You’re still in the honeymoon stage, sending a lot of texts and smiling while
glancing at your phone. You want this happiness to stay forever, but in order for it to
do so, you’ll have to carefully navigate the new relationship’s path.
A new relationship is an exhilarating experience. It’s also one of the most vulnerable
times in life, and it can be really easy to do the wrong thing. If you don’t know how to
handle it. To help you get a good start on this new adventure, here are our DOs and
DON’Ts for what you shouldn’t do when dating someone new.
Have a realistic expectation in relationship
Your new relationship, like your life, is not a Hollywood romantic comedy. Having
realistic expectations of your partner rather than comparing them to a fictional figure
you’ve seen in a movie or read about in a book will increase their appreciation of you.
Accept that he/she is a flawed human being, even if he/she appears to be your prince
charming/princess.
You will be frustrated at times, but you will still love and adore them. Here are some
easy approaches to set realistic goals:
- Communicate honestly and openly without being critical or defensive in the
relationship. Instead of making your significant other guess and feeling guilty
when they don’t get it right, tell them what you want. - Recognize that your partner may not always make huge gestures, such as
stunning you with a room full of flowers or a flash mob performance while
strolling through the park in the relationship. Instead, value little but meaningful
gestures like a kiss on the forehead, a word of embodiment when you’re down,
someone opening the door for you, or keeping on the unsafe side of the road. - Respect each other’s autonomy and quit expecting your partner to text or call you
every minute of the day. In a relationship, frequent communication is essential,
yet constant contact can be exhausting.
Don’t be a negative person in the relationship
Negativity is contagious, and most individuals don’t want to be associated with it,
especially when starting a new relationship. Pessimism can take many forms, including
a refusal to try something your spouse enjoys, jealously when their ex communicates,
insecurity when your partner appreciates someone else, and so on.
Be willing to try new foods and activities because if you don’t, you’ll never know how
good, or how bad, they can be. Simultaneously, it’s very likely that you’re not the only
one who finds your partner appealing.
Do not jump to conclusions and begin discussing the future.
It’s not how relationships work to barrage your spouse with inquiries and future plans
when you’re just starting off. There’s a good risk you’ll irritate your partner.
This is because any relationship takes time to develop, and you can’t expect your lover to
be completely smitten from the start. Keep in mind that you are new to this and are only
beginning a relationship.
Do Communicate Often and Well
“Say what you mean and mean what you say,” Campbell advises. “Be direct and
considerate, pick your conflicts wisely, treat your spouse well, and avoid damaging
behaviors like yelling, criticizing, and judging.” Because you know your childhood pals so
well, you may feel as if you can read their minds, but that type of connection takes time,
and sadly, years together is something you and your new relationship lack. You can’t
expect them to figure out what you’re thinking, so be as open and honest as possible.
Don’t bring up your concerns.
When many people start dating someone new, one of the first things they do is start
spilling their relationship fears and anxieties. Sharing your previous relationship
experiences with your current partner will overwhelm them. Keep the conversations brief
and to the point, and avoid oversharing.
Don’t make any comparisons.
You may feel tempted to point out their flaws at the beginning of the relationship, but
don’t do so because it will hurt them. You should also avoid bringing up previous
relationships and comparing them to your current one, as this may make your significant
other feel insecure and jealous. They may also believe you have not moved on from your
previous relationship.
Don’t be needy.
The beginning of a new relationship is thrilling. You always want to be with your boo, and
when you aren’t, you feel like calling or texting to inquire about every minor detail of their
life. First and foremost, you must relax and allow them to breathe. You don’t want to
overwhelm them because you’ll have plenty of time to discuss everything later.
Don’t dismiss the “birds and bees” discussion.
If you and your partner are in a sexual relationship, it is critical that you practice safe sex.
It would be ideal to have an open conversation about your anxiousness and preferences
with your partner in bed. This allows you to become more intimate with one another.
Don’t be afraid to experiment with new things.
If your partner wants to try new things and you don’t, give it a shot; you might end up
liking it. Being open to new experiences is always a good way to learn new things. Plus,
you might end up discovering something you both enjoy doing together.
Don’t bug them about their ex.
The “ex-talk” is something that many people avoid, and for good reason. If your partner
had a bad breakup, don’t delve into their past by asking about their relationship with their
ex. Give them time, and they will gradually but steadily open up. If you bombard them
with such questions, they will become emotionally exhausted.
